The subject of discipline is always an important one; and can be approached from many different angles.
Here at Eagles Aerie School we’ve been talking about discipline in a positive sort of way. We call this, “Positive Discipline”. So, a person who reads this might be thinking, “What can be positive when there’s discipline involved”? It has been my thought, that a person can find positives; even through negative situations. The primary consideration I believe, is that if a person learns from his or her mistakes, then most certainly that individual will be all the better for it. As for me, positive discipline begins with me personally. If I don’t live my life in a way that would be expected of me, then it would be hard to ask students to do the same. We’re not judged so much by what we say, but more through our actions. They speak volumes.
When my responsibilities increased to where I was in charge of Honor’s Orchestra, two bucket brigades, etc., my learnng skills kicked in to high gear. I am a Teacher, yes! But like the students I’m learning as far as how to deal with discipline issues. With every new situation, the challenge became how to resolve a particular situation. Whatever came my way, I seemed to be able to handle whatever obstacles were in my way. I know that times my Blindness was a drawback in the sense I couldn’t see what actually took place. In those cases, I could only hope that those who were acting as “My Eyes”, were being honest; and not reacting out of a dislike for the one who was causing the trouble.
Because of my Blindness, the skill of communication becomes very important. The students I’m involved with learn very quickly, what they can, or can’t get away with. My purpose for writing posts on this subject is that it might be of interest, how someone who does not see what takes place in the classroom deals with these sorts of things. Just because I am blind doesn’t mean that I’m not capable as far as handling these things. The teaching of life’s lessons enters in to it; mixed in with a little common sense.
For me to best describe and show what I mean, this will be covered in a few of my upcoming posts. I will use examples of situations I had to work with, to show how I was able to handle a given situation. As a courtesy to the group and teacher, they will not be named.
The week of our All-school Christmas Show, I was working with a group of girls from a particular class. They were highly motivated. They were people, that if you set them off in any way, they would become very intense. On this particular week in question, I was meeting with them on Monday and Wednesday. If they had their way, they would have met with me everyday. In these rehearsals, allot of time was spent calming people down who were arguing. The Leader was constantly adding people to the group; so that when we actually were able to get some things done, it was as if we had to go back to square 1, and start over.
By Wednesday, it wasn’t much better. The arguments were still persisting. Nobody was getting along, and tempers were involved. I would like to think of myself as one who does not lose his cool often. I had reached the point, that I had heard enough. I had suggested to the group, that we had a situation where we had too many people who wanted to be in charge. Nobody it seemed was willing to work together. I told them that what I needed to do was to pull their number from the program. Whatever attitude existed came to an abrupt halt. Some students were crying; and begging that the number not be pulled. I then posed this question to them. “Do you think that this is fun for me to have to discipline like this? Do you think I enjoy, having to have to do this? We’re supposed to be working on your part of the show; but we have to solve these problems. Now, we’ll do the number one more time, and this time, it will be done right”.
To be sure, I had a quiet room of students. They knew, that I was upset; and that behavior like this, was not going to be acceptable in my classroom. Once they did their number I made them apologize for the way they had treated each other. The apologies were quite genuine; some of which were pretty emotional. The result of all of this? Their number stayed in the program; and there were no more difficulties. It was best that they learn this, in the way and manner that they did. I suspect that one might call this, tough love. If lessons were learned, and students learned something from this, then all of this is worthwhile.
In my next posting, I will talk about bucket brigades; and how positive discipline can be rewarded.
Gary Gjerstad